Relationships – Agony or Ecstasy


How to turn them from agony to ecstasy, where possible.

I’m a people watcher. Have been for 25 years. I got into the business of psychology and organizational development over two decades ago, having studied for a lot and taught psychology at University for much of that time, and since then, I have observed a lot of relationships. All types of them, in fact. Relationships that are happy, relationships that struggle and putt along and relationships that stay glued together, even though they are fraught with conflict and disharmony.

Not only have I observed hundreds of thousands of people over the years (well, it feels like it anyway!), but I have also had the privilege of working with many (individuals, couples, families, teams, organizational leaders and board members) to help them learn ‘how to do’ relationships, how to understand behaviours and thoughts that make relationships with ourselves and others grow and thrive.

Having conducted this self-acquired research and acquired this extensive knowledge and experience, I became fascinated with learning about how to make relationships grow from mediocre to great. Much of what follows may not be new or groundbreaking for some readers, but for others it may be; at the very least, it should be a healthy refresher. My hope is that you will walk away with a few thoughts about your relationships and reflect on ways to improve them in the future.